Uburyo 4 ushobora gushimangira imbaraga zo mu mutwe

Imiterere yimiryango yacu kumurongo no kumubiri hamwe no gutinya icyo ejo hazaza hateganijwe n’imihindagurikire y’ikirere idahwitse tubona

uyumunsi irashobora rimwe na rimwe kuvamo ingaruka mbi cyane mubuzima bwacu bwo mumutwe. Hirya no hino ku isi, guverinoma zikomeje gutera inkunga imishinga y’ibikomoka kuri peteroli nubwo

ingaruka z’imihindagurikire y’ikirere.

Abantu ku isi yose bamaze kwirukanwa mu ngo zabo bitewe n’ibiza biterwa n’ikirere kandi ibi bituma twese dusigaye duhangayitse; Kuri

ubwacu ariko cyane cyane kubwumutekano n'imibereho myiza yabandi.

Ababyeyi nabo bafite igitutu cyinshi cyo kwigisha abana babo uburyo bwo kumenya abaturage no kwita kubidukikije. Ibi byiyongereyeho guhangayikishwa

guhangayika kwurubyiruko no kwiheba.

Ufatanije n’uko muri iki gihe, umubare w’abantu batinya gutsindwa, cyane cyane mu mwuga bahisemo, ari mwinshi kuruta mbere hose; ntabwo bigoye kubona ibyo runaka

ingamba zigomba gushyirwaho kugirango hagabanuke ibyiyumvo byo kwiheba mugihe ibihe bigoye. Ariho hinjira imbaraga zo mumutwe.

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Kwihangana mumutwe bizagufasha guhangana nibibazo byawe utuje kandi ukire ibitagenda neza mumuhanda wawe vuba. Niba iyi mihanda ihari

ntoya (nko kubona parikingi neza cyangwa kutabona ako kazi wifuzaga) cyangwa ibiza kurwego runini (ibihuhusi cyangwa ibitero byiterabwoba), dore inzira zoroshye

urashobora gushimangira imitekerereze yawe kugirango uhangane neza nibibazo bitoroshye:

1. Sobanukirwa ko udashobora kugenzura byose.

Bumwe mu buryo bwiza ushobora gushimangira icyemezo cyawe cyo mumutwe nukuba mwiza muguhitamo imirwano yawe. Kumenya-imyitwarire ya psychotherapiste Donald

Robertson, inzobere mu isano iri hagati ya filozofiya, psychologiya no kwiteza imbere, mu gitabo cye Stoicsm n'Ubuhanzi bw'ibyishimo, akomeza avuga.

ko ari ngombwa kumenya icyo ushobora kugenzura nicyo udashobora, kuko ikintu cyonyine ufite kugenzura ni ibitekerezo byawe nkana. Isi yose

ibibazo ntabwo ari ibyawe kubikemura kandi mvugishije ukuri, ntushobora kugenzura byose nubwo ubishaka. Niba ushoboye gutandukanya ibintu ushobora

kugenzura nibintu udashobora, urashobora kwemeza imbaraga zawe nubushake bwawe bidapfusha ubusa kubwa nyuma.

Wibande kubyo ushobora kugenzura, aho kwibanda kubyo udashobora.

Ukuri kworoshye ugomba kwibuka nuko mubuzima, uzahura nibihe bitesha umutwe, ntakuntu byagenda. Urashobora no kugira amajoro make aho udashobora

gusinzira biturutse ku guhangayika cyangwa undi. Amayeri hano ntabwo ari ugutakaza ibitotsi byinshi kubintu udashobora gukemura. Ikintu kimwe ushobora guhora ugenzura ni

igisubizo cyawe wenyine kubyabaye mubuzima bwawe kandi nibyiza.

Mugihe rero usanze uhangayikishijwe nibintu byinshi icyarimwe, hagarika gutekereza ku ruhare rwawe mubisubizo. N'aho udashobora gutanga igihe kirekire

ibisubizo kuko udafite imbaraga nke - vuga kubijyanye numuriro wa Amazone, Brexit ndetse namakimbirane yo muri Siriya - akenshi hariho ikibazo ushobora gukemura.

ubuzima bwawe bwite kugirango ibintu bishoboke neza, nubwo udashobora gukemura byimazeyo ibibazo binini, byisi. Kurugero, wibande kubintu ushobora kugenzura nka

gushyira mubikorwa imyitozo ngororamubiri ya buri munsi niba ushaka kugabanya ibiro, cyangwa gupakira imyanda ya zeru niba ushaka kwirinda plastike imwe.

2. Shira imbere ibyo gushimira.

Gushimira ni amarangamutima akomeye ya muntu kandi bivuga uburyo bwo gushimira. Byasobanuwe nkugushimira byimazeyo umuntu (cyangwa ikindi) ibyo

itanga igihe kirekire.

Kwimenyereza gushimira nikimwe mubintu bikomeye ushobora gukora kubuzima bwawe bwo mumutwe, kuko bizagufasha gukomeza ibintu neza, ndetse no mugihe kinini

ibihe bitoroshye. Iyo witoje gushimira buri gihe, uzagira amarangamutima meza, wumve uri muzima, usinzire neza, kandi ugaragaze byinshi

kugirira impuhwe abandi. Uzashobora kandi gushobora guhagarika amarangamutima mabi nkishyari, cyangwa inzika. Gushimira byagaragaye ko ari psychotherapeutic muri

ubu bushakashatsi buzwi cyane bwa Yale bwakozwe na Robert A. Emmons na Robin Stern kubera ingaruka zabwo zo gukiza kumitekerereze yumuntu.

Iyo rero wumva nkaho uburemere bwisi buri ku bitugu byawe fata umwanya utekereze kubyo ushimira. Ntugomba kubika ibi

gusa mu bihe bikomeye. Urashobora gushimira byimazeyo kuzamurwa mu kazi, ariko urashobora kandi gushimira byimazeyo igisenge hejuru yumutwe cyangwa ifunguro wowe

yari afite saa sita.

3. Kora ikintu utari mwiza.

Hano hari inganda zose zo kwiteza imbere zikubwira kwibanda kubyo ushoboye kandi ugaha undi muntu ibintu byose. Nkumujenerali

ihame, ubu buryo bufite inyungu nyinshi, imwe murimwe nuko dushobora kuba twishimye kandi tugakora neza cyane mugihe tubonye kwibanda gusa

ibyo dukora byiza. Ariko kwibanda ku mbaraga zawe gusa ntibizagufasha cyane mugihe cyo gushimangira icyemezo cyawe. Ubu bushakashatsi bwakozwe kuburyo bushobora kubaho

isoko yo gushishikara no gukora, kurugero, yerekana ko iyo abantu bamenye amaganya bumva hafi yikibazo cyangwa intego, baba benshi

birashoboka gutsimbarara kubikorwa byabo, no kubona kunyurwa cyane mugihe cyakazi.

Shyira ukundi, akenshi ntukeneye gukaza umurego mubitekerezo niba usanzwe ubishoboye. Aho imbaraga zawe nyazo zageragejwe cyane ni mubihe

hanze yakarere kawe keza; gutera intambwe rero muruziga buri kanya bizakora ibyiza kubushobozi bwawe bwo mumutwe. Mu gitabo cyeShikiraUmwarimu wa

imyitwarire yubuyobozi mumashuri mpuzamahanga yubucuruzi ya kaminuza ya Brandeis ninzobere mubyimyitwarire mubucuruzi,Andy Molinskyasobanura ko

mugukandagira hanze yakarere kacu keza, turashobora gufata amahirwe, gufungura ibintu byinshi bishya no kuvumbura ibintu kuri twe tutari kugira

ukundi kuvumburwa.

Iyi ntambwe irashobora kuba yoroshye nko kuvugana numuntu utagira aho uba cyangwa biteye ubwoba nko kwitanga nkumuvugizi mu rugendo rutaha rw’ikirere mu gace utuyemo, nubwo

kamere yawe isoni. Ikintu cyingenzi hano ni uko mugihe rimwe na rimwe ugwa mubintu utari mwiza, uzabona amakosa yawe asobanutse neza kugirango

urashobora kugira ibyo uhindura mubitekerezo byawe kandi ugakora kurambura ubushobozi bwawe. Ibyo byose bizashimangira ubutwari bwawe bwo mumutwe cyane

4. Witoze imyitozo yo mu mutwe ya buri munsi.

Ubwenge, kimwe numubiri, bukenera imyitozo yo mumutwe buri gihe kugirango ikomeze kumenya neza no mumarangamutima. Gukomera mu mutwe ni nk'imitsi, bigomba gukorerwa

gukura no kwiteza imbere kandi inzira yihuse yo kuhagera ni mubikorwa. Noneho ntagushidikanya ko ibihe bikabije duhura nabyo bigerageza ubutwari nubwenge

ikemure ariko ntugomba kureka ibintu bikabije.

Witondere ibihe byawe bya buri munsi kandi witoze gushimangira imbaraga zawe zo mumutwe hamwe nabo.Ninzira ikubiyemo kumenya uko ibintu bimeze

biganisha ku guhangayika cyangwa guhangayika, gutandukanya ibitekerezo n'amarangamutima biganisha kuri ibiamarangamutima mabi no gushyira mubitekerezo bizima kugirango uhindure

ibitekerezo bigoretse bikunze kuba inyuma yibi bihe.