Uko imiryango yacu yo kuri interineti n'iy'umubiri igenda irushaho kwangirika ndetse n'ubwoba bw'ejo hazaza mu gihe cy'impinduka z'ikirere zitizigama tubona.
muri iki gihe rimwe na rimwe bishobora kugira ingaruka mbi cyane ku buzima bwacu bwo mu mutwe. Hirya no hino ku isi, za leta zikomeje gutera inkunga imishinga y’ibikomoka kuri peteroli nubwo
ingaruka z'imihindagurikire y'ikirere.
Abantu hirya no hino ku isi bamaze kuva mu ngo zabo bitewe n’ibiza bikomoka ku mihindagurikire y’ikirere, ibi bigatuma abandi bose bumva bahangayikishijwe;
ubwacu ariko cyane cyane ku bw'umutekano n'imibereho myiza y'abandi.
Ababyeyi nabo bafite igitutu cyo kwigisha abana babo uburyo bwo kuba abaturage b’inyangamugayo no kwita ku bidukikije. Ibi byiyongera ku guhangayikishwa no
imihangayiko n'ihungabana mu rubyiruko.
Hamwe n'uko muri iki gihe, umubare w'abantu batinya gutsindwa, cyane cyane mu mirimo bahisemo, uri hejuru kurusha mbere hose; ntabwo bigoye kubona ko hari
Hagomba gushyirwaho ingamba zo kugabanya kwiheba iyo ibihe bikomeye. Ni naho imbaraga zo mu mutwe ziza.
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Kuba umuntu udashobora guhangana n'ibibazo byawe mu buryo bw'ubugwaneza bizagufasha guhangana n'ibibazo byawe utuje kandi ugakira vuba cyane ibibazo byose byakubayeho mu muhanda wawe.
ntoya (nko gucibwa ihazabu yo guparika imodoka cyangwa kutabona ako kazi wifuzaga) cyangwa ibyago bikomeye (inkubi y'umuyaga cyangwa ibitero by'iterabwoba), dore uburyo bworoshye
Ushobora kongera ubushobozi bwawe bwo kwihangana kugira ngo uhangane neza n'ibibazo bikomeye:
1. Sobanukirwa ko udashobora kugenzura ibintu byose.
Bumwe mu buryo bwiza bwo gukomeza umurava wawe wo mu mutwe ni ukuba umuhanga mu guhitamo intambara zawe. Umuganga w’indwara zo mu mutwe Donald, umuhanga mu by’imyitwarire yo mu mutwe.
Robertson, wibanda ku mibanire iri hagati ya filozofiya, imitekerereze y'abantu no kwiteza imbere, mu gitabo cye cyitwa Stoicsm and the Art of Happiness, akomeza avuga ko
ko ari ingenzi kumenya icyo ushobora kugenzura n'icyo udashobora kugenzura, kuko ikintu cyonyine ufite ububasha kuri cyo ari ibitekerezo byawe byihariye. Isi yose
Ibibazo si ibyawe ugomba kubikemura kandi mu by'ukuri, ntushobora kubigenzura byose nubwo wabishaka. Niba ushoboye gutandukanya ibintu ushobora
kugenzura ibintu udashobora gukora, ushobora kwemeza ko imbaraga zawe n'ubushake bwawe bitapfushwa ubusa kuri ibyo bya nyuma.
Ibande ku byo ushobora kugenzura, ntabwo ari ibyo udashoboye.
Ukuri gusanzwe ugomba kwibuka ni uko mu buzima, uzahura n'ibihe bigoye, nta buryo bwo kubireka. Ushobora no kugira amajoro make aho utabishobora
gusinzira bitewe n'ikintu kimwe gitera stress. Amayeri hano ni ukudasinzira cyane bitewe n'ibintu udashobora gukemura. Ikintu kimwe ushobora kugenzura buri gihe ni
uko wabyitwaramo ku byabaye mu buzima bwawe kandi nta kibazo.
Rero iyo uhangayitse ku bintu byinshi icyarimwe, hagarara utekereze ku ruhare rwawe mu gukemura ikibazo. Ndetse n'aho udashobora gutanga ubufasha burambye.
ibisubizo kuko ufite ingaruka nke cyane – urugero nko mu gihe cy’inkongi z’umuriro za Amazon, Brexit ndetse n’amakimbirane yo muri Siriya – akenshi hari ikibazo ushobora gukemura muri
ubuzima bwawe bwite kugira ngo ibintu birusheho kuba byiza, nubwo udashobora gukemura ibibazo bikomeye by’isi mu buryo butaziguye. Urugero, shyira imbaraga mu bintu ushobora kugenzura nko
gushyira mu bikorwa gahunda ya buri munsi yo gukora siporo niba ushaka kugabanya ibiro, cyangwa gupakira ibikoresho byawe byo kwambara nta myanda niba ushaka kwirinda ipulasitiki ikoreshwa rimwe gusa.
2. Shyira imbere gushima.
Gushima ni amarangamutima akomeye ya muntu kandi yerekeza ku gushima. Byasobanuwe nko gushimira byimbitse umuntu (cyangwa ikintu)
bitanga icyizere kirambye.
Gushimira ni kimwe mu bintu bikomeye ushobora gukorera ubuzima bwo mu mutwe, kuko bizagufasha gushyira ibintu mu buryo bwiza, ndetse no mu gihe cyoroshye cyane.
ibihe bigoye. Iyo uhora ugaragaza gushimira, uzagira amarangamutima meza, urusheho kumva uri muzima, usinzire neza, kandi ugaragaze byinshi
impuhwe ku bandi. Uzarushaho kandi gushobora gukumira amarangamutima mabi nk'ishyari, cyangwa inzika. Gushima byagaragaye ko ari uburyo bwo kuvura indwara zo mu mutwe muri
ubu bushakashatsi buzwi cyane bwa Yale bwakozwe na Robert A. Emmons na Robin Stern kubera ingaruka zabwo zo gukiza ubwenge bw'umuntu.
Rero iyo wumva ko umutwaro w'isi uri ku bitugu byawe, fata umwanya utekereze ku byo ushimira. Ntabwo ari ngombwa ko ubiteganyiriza.
gusa ku bihe bikomeye. Ushobora gushimira kuzamurwa mu ntera ku kazi, ariko ushobora no gushimira gusa ko wagufashije cyangwa ifunguro ryawe.
twariye ifunguro rya saa sita.
3. Kora ikintu utari mwizaho.
Hari urwego rw’iterambere rw’umuntu ku giti cye rukubwira kwibanda ku byo ushoboye kandi ibindi byose ukabiha undi muntu. Nk’umujenerali
ihame, ubu buryo bufite inyungu nyinshi, imwe muri zo ni uko tuba dushobora kwishima no gukora neza cyane iyo twibanda gusa ku
ibyo dukora neza. Ariko kwibanda ku mbaraga zawe gusa ntacyo bizagufasha cyane iyo bigeze ku gushimangira icyemezo cyawe cyo mu mutwe. Ubu bushakashatsi ku buryo bushobora
Urugero, isoko y'imbaraga n'imikorere bigaragaza ko iyo abantu bazi impungenge bumva bafite ku kibazo cyangwa intego nshya, baba barushaho
bashobora gukomeza akazi kabo, kandi bakanyurwa cyane mu gihe cy'akazi.
Mu buryo butandukanye, akenshi ntukenera kwihatira gukora akazi runaka niba usanzwe ubikora neza. Aho imbaraga zawe nyakuri zigeragezwa cyane ni mu bihe runaka.
hanze y'aho umerewe neza; bityo gusohoka muri uwo ruziga rimwe na rimwe bizagufasha kwihangana mu mutwe. Mu gitabo cyeKugeraPorofeseri wa
imyitwarire y’ibigo muri Kaminuza ya Brandeis International Business School n’inzobere mu myitwarire mu isi y’ubucuruzi,Andy Molinskyasobanura ko
Iyo tuvuye mu bice byacu byoroshye, dushobora gufata amahirwe, tugafungura amahirwe menshi mashya no kuvumbura ibintu kuri twe ubwacu tutari kuba dufite.
byavumbuwe ukundi.
Iyi ntambwe ishobora kuba yoroshye nko kuganira n'umuntu udafite aho aba cyangwa gutera ubwoba nko gukora ubushake nk'umuvugizi mu rugendo rutaha rwo guhangana n'imihindagurikire y'ikirere mu gace utuyemo, nubwo
kamere yawe y'isoni. Ikintu cy'ingenzi hano ni uko iyo rimwe na rimwe ugiye mu bintu utazi neza, uzabona neza intege nke zawe kugira ngo
ushobora guhindura imitekerereze yawe no gukora ibishoboka byose kugira ngo wongere ubushobozi bwawe. Ibi byose bizakomeza cyane imbaraga zawe zo mu mutwe
4. Itoze imyitozo yo mu mutwe ya buri munsi.
Ubwonko, kimwe n'umubiri, bukeneye imyitozo ngororamubiri ihoraho kugira ngo bukomeze kugira ubuzima bwiza mu bwenge no mu marangamutima. Ubuhanga bwo mu mutwe bumeze nk'imitsi, bugomba gukoreshwa kugira ngo
gukura no gutera imbere kandi uburyo bwihuse bwo kubigeraho ni ukubikoresha mu myitozo. Ubu nta gushidikanya ko ibihe bikomeye duhura nabyo bigerageza ubutwari bwacu n'ubwenge bwacu.
gira icyo ukora ariko ntugomba kureka ibintu bikagera ku rugero rukabije.
Witondere imimerere yawe ya buri munsi kandi witoze gukomeza imbaraga zawe zo mu mutwe ukoresheje iyo myitozo.Ni inzira ikubiyemo kumenya imimerere
biganisha ku guhangayika mu mutwe cyangwa guhangayika, bigatandukanya ibitekerezo n'ibyiyumvo bitera ibiamarangamutima mabi no gushyira mu bikorwa ibitekerezo bizima kugira ngo uhindure
ibitekerezo bigoreka bikunze kuba inyuma y'iyi mimerere.
Igihe cyo kohereza: Gicurasi-08-2021
